Whose Wedding Is It Anyway?

One of the happiest days of every woman's life is her wedding day! At that moment you feel like you have accomplished one of life's biggest tasks, and you feel semi complete. So, naturally as soon as you get engaged you immediately go into planning mode and will call on a few important women to join you in the planning. You call your mom, grandma, aunts, sisters, cousins and best girlfriends and they jump in just as excited as you as if it was their "special day". Now, of course you love their ideas and input because at that moment you are all over the place with what you may want. But, here is the trick, before you ask for their help please let them know that this is your day, here is what you envisioned and here is how you can help. It's important to communicate that with them because if not you will hear "This is what you should do" "These colors are better" "I want to invite our old neighbors" "I'm not wearing that dress, I hate my legs", and those statements will have you altering all of your ideas and visions.

Now, I'm not saying that their ideas cant help but you have to know when someone is trying to take over and plan the wedding they always envisioned and that's not fair to you. Naturally, you won't tell them no to all of their ideas but you may start feeling a bit overwhelmed and say "whose wedding is it anyway". When you feel you are at that point you have to have a heart to heart with that person and let them know that you love and thank them for all of their ideas and suggestions but those aren't the things that you want for your special day.

As a planner it is extremely difficult to come in the middle of the planning stages and you have all these different voices giving you the the details and your bride hasn't said one word. We know your family means well, but at the end of the day the bride and groom are the only ones who matters to us. Although, your parents may be footing the bill, its still your day!! So, that doesn't mean that they get to invite all of their friends and co-workers. It may be a tough talk to have but it must be done to keep some sanity, and if you are really lost in the planning stages seek a planner. Most planners will give a free consultation session to help bring all your ideas together and lead you down the right path. All in all this your day and you and your groom should make all the final decisions. Really, "whose wedding is it anyway"!!!!!!!